Monday, January 2, 2017


Isn't it gratifying that God grants us with a new year to start over! The biggest thing I've learned this 2016 year is that it's okay to take baby steps... It's okay to fall down sometimes because in that time of sinking... God AGAIN will be the ultimate rescuer. This last year has been a rough year for my family, but while hitting those rough patches it has forced me to learn too......Drum Roll please....... TRUST IN GOD! So this year I declare that I will be free......Because it doesn't matter my new years resolution if I'm still holding onto the same mental make-up of last years......

If you have the same view, same mentality, you are guaranteed the same results! -TRUST IN GOD!



New Year.... New View....New Mentality.... Guaranteed New Results!

Monday, December 26, 2016

Perception Of You!

“But if your eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness! -Matthew 6:23                                                                                        

There are often times we can relive situations that we would much rather let die. There were many times I would toss and turn, wrestling with what I thought of myself. I could fight battles outwardly without visible bruising, but inwardly I was losing to my own perceptions of me. 

Back and forth scenarios would play in my mind of things that wounded me, things that made me angry, or things that made me feel low, weak and insecure. Of course I would try to rise above those thoughts and tell myself you’re more than your past, your persecution, mistakes you’ve made, you are more than your failures! But my view of me winning and overcoming was still vague and held little to no faith. 

Perception by Webster definition, it is the way you think about or understand someone or something.

Is your perception of you a winner, over-comer, mighty, strong, wealthy, inspirational, encouraging, respected, and well known? Or is your perception of you defeated, weak, poor, one who holds no value, overlooked, and broken. I’m not asking about what are others perception of you are, but I’m asking what is your perception of you?

It doesn’t matter what others think about you that determines you fulfilling your purpose and destiny, but it’s what you think about YOU!  Precious people you hold great value, NO longer prolong the promises God has for you by the negative thoughts you hold onto about yourself!

When David perceived that his son was dead before his servants had even told him. Do you wonder how he was able to move on without stumbling or falling back into self-pity? How was he able to forget those things that were behind him, and move on with such strength and might? 

Was the enemy tugging at his mind??? saying David,"This is a big one David, you may have killed that giant Goliath but you’ll never be able to kill this Giant FAILURE in your mind!"

It's time to avoid those setbacks caused by faulty perceptions of who you are. Start perceiving your situation as though you’ve already overcame and that God has already went ahead of you in battle.
It's time to change the perception of you!


Saturday, December 10, 2016

Leading Lady- "Pregnant with Purpose!"

“She’s pregnant”! Those were the gut wrenching words that I didn’t want to hear at the age of 17. Looking at my mother overwhelmed, her emotions immediately began to shift into sadness. I knew then what disappointment looked like. Unable to face my harsh reality, I grabbed a hold to shame and disgrace. Tears of regret flooded my face as I desperately attempted to comfort her from the shattered images she once had of a perfect me.  In the midst of our emotional distress, I hear the nurse say, “There are other options.” My mother turns to me with a stern face and says, “Keep your baby.” I reassured her that I would, but it would’ve been great to know the level of scrutiny I opened the door for. This scrutiny followed me for many years to come……

Many would look at me and ask, “How old are you?” I knew that they associated my teenage looking face with thoughts that screamed another sad case of a “child raising a child”. Indeed they were right, I was a child raising a child and there were many things I and baby Kaidyn had to learn together. There were a lot of days filled with discouragement and loneliness. I often questioned why God would allow me to have a child at such a young age, considering the majority of my peers were making irresponsible choices as well. But even in those times of questioning, I soon found sweet joy in being a mother.

Baby Kaidyn, in a lot of ways, pushed me into becoming a fighter even in disbelief and discouragement. Thoughts of being mediocre, or a failure at best, were conquering my perception of how I saw my future. The world showed me that my mistakes were unforgivable and that someone like me could never possess greatness or power. But I am pleased to report that God has used my mistakes and turned it into a ministry!

"I was once enslaved and a follower of inferiority, but now I see all along that I possessed the power of leading the minority."-Danielle Fleming

So I have a question Ladies.  Do you feel called to lead, but feel beaten and discouraged to do so? No matter how much the world tells you that your mistakes are too many, or that you just don’t have what it takes, I encourage you to step out and grab a hold to chance. Not by any means am I promoting teenage pregnancy, because marriage is the most beautiful covenant God could have ever created. But I will say we shouldn’t place limits, or give into negative thoughts of the young mothers who are now trying to modify their lives.

Mahatma Gandhi quotes, “Be the change you want to see in this world.” When others see how God pulled you out of the choke-hold of shame and disgrace, you can only expect to inspire other young women to follow suit.
Because of your trouble, pain and rejection God promises you will receive double for your troubles. The bible tells us, “Instead of shame and dishonor, you will enjoy a double share of honor. You will possess a double portion of prosperity in your land, and everlasting joy will be yours!”-Isaiah 61:7.

At a young age I had to be labeled as an outcast so that I could one day share how God was my refuge, friend and comforter. It was grace that was given to me when I had to experience the sorrow of rejection. I wouldn’t be able to minister to you had I just given up on baby Kaidyn before he was birthed. Every encounter and experience in my life, God allowed as a learning mechanism for me. Yes I was, and still sometimes can be afraid and timid at what others will say about my shortcomings. But I see very clearly now that God likes to show what his grace looks like through people who the world would stamp as failures.

So go ahead ladies and step out and be who God has called you to be! There’s a LEADING LADY in YOU!